when she doesn't call:
	relax, if possible
	listen to music
	read
	watch a good movie
	play on the computer
	work on a project
		write something
		paint something
	find something to do in the city

when she hurts me or I am hurting:
	do NOT call her
	relax
	call Mom or my brother or Jonathan
	write down exactly how it feels
	sing songs to myself (write them down afterwards)
	lay on the floor in front of the stereo
	make something delicious to eat
	remember it is better to do nothing than something
	do anything to make time pass

when talking to her:
	allow her to speak even if it means long silences
	stick to my feelings
	do NOT attempt to understand her actions
	listen carefully for her feelings
	ALWAYS GO SLOW, ALWAYS BE PATIENT
	it is better to panic alone than to panic with her