Vol. 11, Issue No. 31/2004
From Dr. Laura Schlessinger: sound (often blunt) advice to wives on how to improve their marriages
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
by Dr. Laura Schlessinger
In talking to men and women about their relationships for over twenty-five years on radio, Dr. Laura Schlessinger has found that women no longer understand their own ability to create the relationships and family life that they truly desire. Now, in The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, "Dr. Laura" shows America's wives, step by step, how to wield their innate power as women to attain the intimacy, love, joy and the peaceful home they so desperately want.
Years ago, writes Dr. Laura, women were taught by their mothers that they needed to be wise and sensitive and "work" their men -- they knew how to create and maintain a happy and well-functioning relationship using their so called "feminine wiles" in benevolent and mutually satisfying ways. Today, women have replaced these feminine wiles with disdain, hyper-sensitivity, criticism, bullying and nagging. Dr. Laura explains that emotionally men are "simple" creatures and women only need provide such basic necessities as respect, gratitude, food, sex, and some space for "guy time" in order to achieve the happy home they truly desire.
Using transcripts from actual callers and letters from her audience (with which readers will definitely identify), Dr. Laura demonstrates how following her straightforward advice has helped their marriages. Dr. Laura reminds women that the greatest source of displeasure and stress in their lives is their abdication of their own femininity by having turned themselves into virtual workhorses.
A tiny sampling of Dr. Laura's invaluable advice to wives:
The No. 1 worst mistake women make with respect to being happy in their marriages. The five most common complaints men have about their wives. Every husband's four most important needs. What many wives fail to understand (or underestimate) about the influence they have over their husbands. The danger of "marinating in negatives" (festering over disappointments, slights, annoyances, angers, etc.), and the remedy. Are wives obligated to give their husbands sex on demand? Sex: three wrong approaches some wives take which are self-centered and self-defeating.